The bath-time drama
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The bath-time drama

There used to be the time when I dreaded the bath-time drama, or rather the hair washing bit. Nothing would help. The methods from baby swimming classes, that I had used since she was 3 month, would suddenly freak out my little Master of Stubbornness. No toy, no amount of foam, bubbles, or coloured water would calm her down. No-more-tears my ass.

But we made it through!

To end the hair washing battle you don’t have to buy any special hat, or any special whale jug (though super cute), or install a special shower, or invent a special shampoo. You don’t have to hire a specialist or apply to for help of the Supernanny.

I am quite an anti-gadget person, focused on de-cluttering my house, rather than adding new stuff. After initial baby-stuff flood, I started choosing carefully, and choosing only what would work for us for sure, and what we really need.

This is why all the bath hats, no matter the colour were out of the question: there was no way of knowing if it would solve anything. I also wanted a solution that would help my Drama Queen cope (yep, a big word, for a big problem), and not just postpone the problem – how and when do we drop the hat?

The first thing we did that helped A LOT, was giving her a small towel that she could use to cover her eyes. So, just before pouring the water on her head, I would give her a towel. She still has a habit of reaching for my robe when there’s too much water in her eyes/on her face, or when her hands are “too wet” (whatever that means in the bath). That also was a temporary fix, that I wasn’t crazy about but at least it was costless.

And than I thought about how we teach her to eat with a spoon, and a fork, to drink from a regular cup, to walk, and wear shoes. Same with brushing teeth, combing her I thought about how she’s learning to talk listening to us, and imitating us, and I thought: why should it be different with the bath?

So, unless you have the adult size of that cute bath/shower hat, don’t complicate your life, and don’t clutter your house.

We would have baths together very often but I wasn’t sure how much attention she pays to what I do when I wash myself. So, I started talking about what I’m doing – especially about how I TILT MY HEAD BACKWARDS when I wash my hair. Each time I took a bath without her in it but beside the bathtub, I would show her how fun it is to lie down in the tub on my back.

So now, instead of simply giving her a towel I would ask her to tilt her head backwards. Initially, she needed my help to get the concept, stop being afraid, and eventually she mastered the trick. It took us just 3 weeks.

I bang my head against the wall when I think about how much fun bath-time (or at least hysteria-free bath-time) we had lost. Why haven’t I thought about that sooner?